EP103 Mentally Stuck? Stop Thinking & Start Doing
In this episode, I help you to see that there absolutely is a way out from all those anxieties and fears that you face. Feeling ‘stuck’ doesn’t have to be permanent.
KC: Welcome to The Business of Life Podcast. My name is Keith Callahan, your host.
Today we’re talking about getting unstuck. Getting unstuck and really on a deep level getting unstuck from our anxieties, our fears, our depressions, those heavy, heavy feelings.
So today, what I want to really focus on is not the subtle things that can keep you from getting into one of those funks. But, you know, when you’re in a heavy funk, when you’re – when and if you’ve ever been in one of those funks, that the cloud is so heavy that you’re having a hard time – not even that you’re having a hard time. That you can’t see anything else.
It looks so daunting and so luminous and so just heavy and all-encompassing that this is the way life is going to be, right? That – you know, our minds are crazy. We get stuck in that type of thing that there’s no way out and this is what it’s going to be like and I want you to know that there absolutely is a way out and all those anxieties and fears and depression, they’re not natural states.
Here’s something that you need to really know and really understand if you’ve ever experienced this. What they are is a resistance and a lack of acceptance to reality.
Let me repeat that. Those deep, depressive states are a resistance and a lack of acceptance of what’s really happening in life. So we’re not depressed by nature, the majority of us. There are some extreme cases. Somebody who’s bipolar will experience that. But even that, people can still work with these concepts that I’m sharing.
So again, the depressive state, the lost state, the hopeless state, the fearful state. Those come from a lack of acceptance of our reality and the way we move out of them is not through thinking. That’s what most people try to do. Like, what’s the next thing? How do I figure – how do I get out of this? What do I do? How do I figure it out? What can I do? What’s the next best thing?
And this is the problem, this is the problem, this is the problem, this is problem. And we get stuck on this hamster wheel of thinking and dah, dah, dah.
The only way to get out of that situation is first, just accept it. The second way is through action. Get busy getting busy. I’m sharing – this is something that has worked for me because I’ve been in those states.
The best possible action is physical action with other people. But depending on what the situation is, it may be – just get into action on fixing it. Get into action on doing. So a lot of times in my business, I think that, oh, I got to fix this. The way that I do this and the way that I do that. Maybe I got to reroute everything and re-experiment with all this stuff because I don’t feel good. I don’t – I feel anxious about it. I don’t like the way that it feels right now or maybe I had a situation with somebody else and the situation that I had with them made me just feel all anxious and I kept playing it over and over and over my mind. I couldn’t stop playing it over and over and over my mind.
I realized that the only way to get out of that, for me, is to get busy doing. Get busy doing something else and again the best way for me is to make it something physical and with other people. For example, when – with our spiritual path, before we get into the ceremony, we always have preparation for the ceremony and that preparation is usually physical work.
So where – whether it’s male or female. So we sort of have gender roles. Women do a lot of the cooking and the lighter preparing. Men do a lot of chopping wood and cutting trees. So we’re getting into that physical work and we’re doing it with other people and just doing that, you can show up for a ceremony and you may have a lot of stuff on your mind, a lot of heaviness on your mind and a lot of things that you’re concerned about.
But once you start getting into that physical work and once you start doing it with other people and you’re having a conversation and there’s mutual honor and respect and everybody has the same intent, then you do that for two, three, four hours and then the ceremony starts.
When the ceremony starts, you’re in a much different space than when you showed up. So just sharing that example because I think it’s a very clear one. But in your life, if you’re ever in the spot where you feel stuck, get into physical action. Get into your body and get into action of moving out of it.
Again, a lot of times, you can get into physical action and you can do it with others. Sometimes it’s something that you have to do yourself. If you’re stuck at work and you haven’t been able to figure out – you have to write this plan or something like that and you haven’t been able to figure out the best way to write it, just start writing. Just get out there and start writing and start doing.
So stop thinking and start doing. That’s my advice for when you’re in one of those ruts, like you’re really stuck. All right. I hope that made sense. I hope that there was some clarity to that. Have a beautiful, beautiful day and we will see you on the next episode.
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